Well I’m back; it’s been a while since I have spent time on blog. With my hectic schedule, it’s sometimes challenging to write. Now that I am back on track, I will begin to focus and share with everyone exciting updates on everything. You have no idea what goes through my mind most of the time. Sometimes I think that some things are better left unsaid, but then there are those awkward moments where if you don’t say anything you make one of the biggest mistakes that can hurt you or the people around you. This is going to be an exciting journey as I refocus my attention with this blog and just write whatever I want. ♥ Until then…I’ll be back.
Ebay is a great place to find unique items. I am an avid online shopper. When I want something unique with a fairly nice price, Ebay is the first place I search. Now what happens if you find an item that is exactly what you’re looking for and several others have placed bids on it? Let me help you out a bit. I know that all of us cannot sit in front of desktops having a bid war for a pair of “Louis’ Vuitton,” in fact the worst thing you can do is bid back and forth. That just drives up the price. Sometimes “bidding action” drives us to be competitive. No one wants to lose, but technically we are losing if we end up bidding the price of the item up by at least 5% of its original bid offer. Sometimes you may stumble upon an item, and it is already at its highest bid, but may seem reasonable for you. To cut down on cost, try to look for items that have free shipping, this can offset the price of the bid if it happens to continue to go up. Find items that have a very unreasonable starting bid, meaning “cheap.” I sometimes find offers starting at .99 cents. Depending on how many bid offers there are, and how much someone bids on it, can determine rather or not your bid makes a difference in price. Usually, starting bids with low offers can stay at a low price for the entire duration of the bid regardless of how many bids are placed. The most important thing you need to do is manage your time, and bid amount. This simply means that you should know when and what time the bid ends, look at your own schedule and determine if you are going to be available to place a final bid on an item. If your schedule works out, make your first offer and watch consistently whenever you’re available. This should not be a hassle as you have already arranged your schedule to do so. When the final hour occurs for the bid, don’t bid back and forth, this will drive up the price. Continue to refresh the page to see what the bid price is so that you can stay on track. When the time comes for the final offer, wait at the last three seconds refresh the page, put in the bid offer and watch you win! This is a strategy that I use , and it works every time!
1. Only bid twice the entire duration of the bid. At the very beginning, and at the last hour to keep the price at a minimum.
2. Look for items that have free shipping.
3. Look for items that have a low offer at the beginning of the bid.
4. Manage your schedule, bid amount, and consistently check on the bid based on the availability of your schedule.
5. Wait to the last hour to bid, and refresh the page consistently.
6. During the last hour, at three seconds, refresh the page and place the final bid offer.
7. Watch you Win!!
I was with my spiritual father the other day, and he shared with me his situation where he desires to be married, but the process that he is going through pushes him date occasionally. This made him uncomfortable. Then he told me that God told him that finding a wife is a process, he referred to the scripture Proverbs 18:22
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
Suddenly, in an instance, God revealed to me that men are just naturally born to date numerous women. God literally designed them that way so that they can “find” their wife.
You see, the key word in this scripture is “findeth.” The term findeth means:
Third-person singular simple present indicative form of find.
In this sentence, the factual term find means:
To locate, attain, or obtain by search or effort.
Finding something is a process. A great example is searching for a designer item that is one-of-kind. Think about the process you have to go through to obtain this item. You have to search thrift stores, Ebay, talk to friends or family members…etc. The process can be draining, but the designer item is well worth it once you finally get your hands on it. Just think of it this way, once you find the designer item, you’ll treasure it because you know what you had to go through to get it. The process and the uniqueness of the item make it special.
God designs us unique especially for our husbands. Our job is to wait while men “weed them out.” This seems challenging to do, especially in this day an age where as women; we have become more aggressive than women in the B.C. era.
We have to learn to accept the nature of men. They are naturally born to do some of the silly things that they do. We have no control over that, and we know that. How many of us have had our hearts broken by a man that promised everything, but cheated, or overlooked us by having an interest for someone else? The issue is, as woman, we tend to wear our heart on our sleeves. We are more vulnerable and desire men sometimes more than they desire us. We have to learn to bite our lips, and control our emotions because the truth is, men love the chase. They are natural hunters.
So not all men are dogs, they are only dogs when they sleep with you. Technically, if they are only dating you, they are not married, so they have the free will to date other women. It is just a common courtesy for them to be honest about it. The truth is if the man thinks that he has found his “good thing” he will not look at other women.
He knew the moment…
Sometimes it is best to be honest, men are born to be players. There is nothing we can do about it, it only stops when they are certain they have found the one.
He’s a player, but “sometimes” not intentionally…
But seek first his Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
We cannot just pass this scripture and not look at it for what it really means. One thing I have learned about God’s word is that he always provides you with a solution. Every bold context proceeds with wisdom on how to handle the situation and then follows an instruction. To me, that is how God provides revelation of his word. Earlier I provided a scripture:
Before that scripture Matthew 6:25-32 gives advice or wisdom on how to deal with the issue of not putting God first; it then follows an instruction or solution on how to deal with it:
Matthew 6:33 But seek first his Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
We have to began studying God’s word for what it is, this text should not be confused with “only” spending more time with God or laboring for him.
The best way to spend more time with God is to pray. God loves to hear from us, he wants us to think about him, talk to him in spirit, go to him for advice and counsel. God is our ultimate source for answers and everything that we need. We need not to go anywhere else to find these things. Building upon your relationship with God allows God to use you for other things in his Kingdom. IF your broken, how can God use you? If your still living in sin, how can God use you? We are not perfect, we are imperfect people, but in due season and time, God will elevate us to a higher degree of ministry. I want to enjoy where I am with God and allow him to elevate me when he deems I am ready. It’s okay to not be ready, we are all a work in progress, but time is all we truly have. It’s a decision.
Matthew 6:6 says
But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly.
Our labor for God is based on the assignment he has given us. Are we in a season where God has given us an assignment to accomplish? What exactly does it mean to labor for God’s kingdom? Evangelize, share the Gospel, and talk to people about Christ? Is it more than that? We are each assigned a task in God’s kingdom. Those tasks can be for a moment or season, which ultimately leads to “the bigger picture” of our calling.
1 Corinthians 3: 5-9
5 What, after all, is Apollos? And what is Paul? Only servants, through whom you came to believe—as the Lord has assigned to each his task. 6 I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God has been making it grow. 7 So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow. 8 The one who plants and the one who waters have one purpose, and they will each be rewarded according to their own labor. 9 For we are co-workers in God’s service; you are God’s field, God’s building.
My last advice, seek god with prayer for any and everything. Once you establish your relationship with him, you began to hear him speak back to you. The best thing experience ever is to experience his presence. There is nothing like it…
I have come to the conclusion that I am not a traditional Christian. I am a new-born believer that is still in my baby stages. Should I have a say on how I want to control my time. Are my desires conflicting with the will of God? How do I raise my level of commitment if I believe what I am giving is what I am capable of at the time? What is exactly required of me? Multiple questions run through my mind and conscious as I examine my spiritual walk with God. There are many times I feel as if I am not free. Should I feel like this? God has given us freedom in several ways:
Free from Sin
Romans 6: 18
You have been set free from sin and have become slaves to riotousness.
This scripture lets us know that we no longer have to struggle with sin; God has already given us freedom from sin. As a result of this God concludes: (Drop down to verse 22) Romans 6:22
But now that you have been set free from sin and have become slaves to God, the benefit you reap leads to holiness, and the result is eternal life. Although struggling with Sin is not uncommon, I deal more with my freedom in Christ.
Freedom in Christ
2 Corinthians 3:17
Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.
For better terms, I consider myself a box girl; sometimes I question rather I am fighting the will of God in my life. We are supposed to serve God by loving him with all of our heart and mind. These are some ways to measure our love for God:
1. Following the law of God (Bible)
3.Serving him with our time
So here I am a 23 year old, called to ministry, called for intercessory and called to serve God. How do I enjoy my life without feeling like I am not committed to God? The next thing that runs through my mind is how much time is enough time for God? Is there ever enough time to spend with God? Of course, we all have life, work, children, school, and personal time. Does personal time matter? I believe that I have surrendered my life, and I think that I allow God to have his way, but can I control the time that I spend with God, when I want to spend it with him? Why is there always a time limit on how much time to spend with God and for Him? Being saved is a choice. I chose to be saved because I wanted complete freedom. When I imagine my life as a Christian, I imagine no time limits, no restrictions on how to serve him and when; no limitations on where he can take me as he fulfills my desires that apply to his will for my life. I don’t want to be a box girl; I want to experience complete freedom in Christ. No restrictions, no limitations, just me and God. The question is: Is God okay with me serving him when I’d like, and how I’ll like to? Of course, he desires us to give him time, but what would he approve of? At some point, we should all examine this as the requirements from God are going to differ for each person.
It was actually yesterday when I discovered how awkward I really am? I don’t think that it is a physical awkwardness, but social awkwardness. Tapping into the ability to connect with people, mostly women have always been a struggle for me. Can anyone relate? There is always moments that when around young ladies like myself, I feel disconnected? I have yet to rationalize the essence behind this, but day by day I am discovering that my flaws are what make me unique. This blog is to track my progress as I grow and get through these “awkward” moments in my life. I don’t have a time stamp on my growth, but as God is my witness…this should be an interesting journey….
ღ LaShantell “Lalah”Williams